Sometimes, when people are stressed, they make poor decisions. They might make a decision quickly without thinking it through or resist negotiating when they really should.
One of the most important things you can do during your divorce is to find a way to relax and think through your decisions. To do so, here are three tips you may want to follow to reduce your stress and make better choices.
Don’t respond to requests immediately
Imagine getting a call from your attorney and hearing what the other party wants to settle on for property division. If you’re frustrated by it, you might immediately be offended and tell them that there isn’t any deal. You might refuse to negotiate.
Try not to do this. Instead, take the information that you’re given, and think it over for the next 24 hours. This will give you time to calm down and think through your response.
Set aside calmer times to look through divorce information
Another good tip is to set aside specific times when you’ll go through your divorce information. For example, if you have Saturday off from work and are at home alone, this might be a good time to set aside a few hours to go through the documents. You’ll be less rushed and be able to focus on what you’re doing.
Take time for yourself during the divorce
Finally, remember to take time for yourself. When you start to feel too overwhelmed, depressed, anxious or angry, it’s time to set aside what you’re doing and reassess the situation. Take a day or two to do some things you enjoy, take a mini-vacation or just get away from thinking about the divorce. That way, when you do come back to look at it, you’ll feel more refreshed. You may also have new ideas about how to resolve any conflicts that arose.
Your attorney will be there to assist as you go through your divorce. Let them know if you have concerns about negotiating or if you have specific assets you want. That way, you’ll be on the same page and have the support you need.